This past Saturday I attended my 25th high school reunion.

As someone who was especially quiet and shy and lacking in confidence, I can’t say I particularly enjoyed my high school experience. But the previous three reunions had been really lovely. Actually, it was kinda shocking how nice everyone had become.

And my 20th one, which had initially been scheduled in May 2020 - but for obvious reasons was postponed by a few years and was sparsely attended as a result - I was pumped to attend this one.

I had this vision of how the night would go:

No longer that shy, awkward kid, I’d feel confident talking to everyone, from the people I actually hung out with to the popular kids who had intimidated me.

I’d have lengthy conversations with my friends who I’d last touch with and hadn’t seen since our 10th reunion, catching one another up on our lives as parents and professionals.

And while I did have some really great conversations and reconnected with a few friends….it’s not how the night went.

After some perfunctory hugs from some of the people I was most looking forward to seeing, I barely talked to them again.

I had the same conversation over and over again about living up in Boston and having two kids.

And as the night wore on, I felt more and more like my shy, awkward self, hurt that my childhood best friend who I hadn’t seen in three years left before saying goodbye and confused by the seeming disinterest of the people I was most looking forward to catching up with.

Quite honestly, I was crushed. I barely made it out of the parking lot before the tears began to fall.

The next morning, I was still in a funk, replaying every interaction and wondering why my former friends barely acknowledged me. That night, as I said goodnight to my 11-year-old, she gave me the biggest, most comforting hug, reading my emotions without me saying a word.

It wasn’t until the next day that I really forced myself to think about the evening - and (for full disclosure) how I could use this story for today’s newsletter because apparently that’s how I operate now 😅 - that I realized:

As much as it stings, my high school friends don’t owe me anything. They don’t owe me their interest or attention.

While from my perspective they’ve made no effort, the truth is… neither have I.

And if I’m gonna be really truthfully with myself, as much as I wanted to catch up and hear about their lives in the past 15 years, I went into that night thinking more about telling my story.

As business owners, we have to care not just about telling our stories, but about deepening relationships.

That happens not by showing up when the mood strikes, or we when we’re ready to launch something, or we have space in our rosters, but by showing up consistently.

As Kyle Adams at Kit wrote in a LinkedIn post yesterday:

And while yes, that’s in your name and words showing up in your subscribers’ inboxes, Reader, that’s also by having an email that reflects your professionalism and values, one that shapes that experience so that it’s as beneficial for you the business owner and the people on the receiving end.

When you show up consistently in your subscribers’ inboxes with valuable, relevant emails, you’re not just maintaining a list, you’re nurturing relationships that can turn into inquiries, bookings, and long-term clients.

Those are exactly the experiences I craft for my clients.

If you’re interested in what this could look like for your business, check out my services guide or book a call to discuss what’s possible for your email setup.

Take it one step at a time,
​Bev​​

Bev Feldman (she/her), Your Personal Tech Fairy 🍄 I help credentialed professionals who never set out to be marketers build simple, values-aligned email systems that save you time, respect your subscribers, and nurture without coming across as salesy. Now booking Kit Foundation & Implementation Roadmap Get a clear, step-by-step plan for your Kit setup Book your roadmap ​ Kit & Email Marketing Consulting Services Booking for December. View my service & pricing guide ​ Power Hours​ ​Get an hour of my eyes & brain for email marketing strategy and/or tech support. Book a Power Hour → ​ As a solopreneur, I strive to incorporate my values of environmentalism and anti-racism and to build an inclusive and equitable business. I believe Black Lives Matter and I stand for LGBTQIA+ rights, including the rights of Transgender and Intersex people. Preferences center ☕ Love this content and want to show your gratitude? Buy me a coffee. 📩 Was this email forwarded to you? Subscribe here​ 🔧 Want to fix your name, update your email address, or choose what you hear about? Update your profile 😴 Need a break? Snooze these emails for 4 weeks​ 👋🏻 No longer interested in receiving these emails? Unsubscribe

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